Sex after childbirth, when you can start, physiological problems, libido

The theme of the first sex after childbirth is relevant, especially among families in which the first born. The couple in the sexual sphere after the delivery of the spouse there are significant changes. This is due to many factors, in particular the psychological and physiological state of the young mummy, as well as changes in the family way, because now all the time a woman should dedicate the baby and care for him.



Very often there are situations when young moms after giving birth lack the desire for sex. As a rule, this is largely due to the fact that during this period the woman does not feel attractive, she is afraid of intimate relations, because she fears pain and other unpleasant sensations, is afraid for her health, is afraid to leave her husband unsatisfied with the background of weak and stretched muscles perineum and vaginal enlargement after childbirth, etc. All these fears are the main reasons that after giving birth a woman does not want sex.

Features of the physiological state of a woman after childbirth and sex.
It is worth noting that the period of pregnancy and delivery itself is a very heavy burden for the female body, which is why after birth, it needs a natural recovery. Not the least of the factors that affect the lack of sexual desire in a woman after childbirth are the characteristics of the course of labor, their severity, complications, as well as the state of women during and after pregnancy and childbirth.

If a woman gave birth naturally, and the process itself proceeded without any complications and medical intervention, the woman's body displays the blood remnants (postpartum discharge or lochia) in about four to six weeks. It is during this period that the body regains itself, involution of the uterus (when it returns to its original dimensions), as well as restoration of tissue damaged during delivery (in particular, the place of attachment of the placenta). Against this background, sexual abstinence here is a natural necessity, so any sexual intercourse is not very desirable at this time. Reduction of libido in women during this period is normal, it is a kind of natural defense of the body against possible complications and the onset of an unwanted second pregnancy.

In addition, sex during this period is undesirable for other reasons. At this time the probability of infection ( STD ) of the genital tract of a woman is significantly increased, as a result of which the infection can spread to the vagina, uterus and her neck. Such infection of the uterus can lead to severe postpartum inflammation, endometritis. Characteristic symptoms of this complication are bad odor and unusual discharge, as well as fever, abdominal pain and deterioration in overall well-being. In addition, sex can provoke bleeding from the vessels that were damaged during labor. That's why experts strongly recommend waiting six weeks after childbirth, and only then resume sexual activity.

However, such terms for the renewal of intimate relationships are relevant for women whose labor was without complications. In the presence of complications during childbirth or in the period after them, it is necessary to abandon sexual relations exactly as much as it takes to fully heal the birth canal of a woman. This period can take more than one month, it all depends on the specific conditions, in any case, before the resumption of sexual intercourse should consult with the treating gynecologist. As a rule, the greatest period of sexual abstinence after childbirth is observed in cases when during the delivery, sutures were applied to the soft tissues of the birth canal due to their ruptures or episiotomy (dissection of the perineum before the appearance of the baby's head).

Readiness for sex after birth is felt by a woman at an intuitive level, but for certainty to consult a gynecologist will not hurt, because only a doctor will be able to confirm the body's readiness for intimate relationships. In addition, the specialist will select the best contraceptive methods for a woman during this period.

What can a woman encounter with the first sexual contact after childbirth?
It should be noted that sex itself after childbirth also becomes different. According to statistics, almost half of the women who have become mothers still experience unpleasant (painful or uncomfortable) sensations during lovemaking for another three months after the delivery, or sex becomes an unpleasant and overbearing duty for them, and 18 percent of women have similar problems in year after the birth of the child.

Soreness and discomfort in a woman during sex after delivery may occur against a background of changes in the configuration of the vagina due to ruptures or episiotomy during labor. In this case, sutures were applied to the perineal region, during which time the damaged nerve endings could be clamped. By the way, there are a lot of them in this field. Hence, a woman experiences pain or discomfort during lovemaking, even in those poses that used to only give positive emotions. Pain and discomfort can go away themselves gradually as the sensitivity of the nerve adapts to other conditions.

In addition, the scar on the perineum will be felt for another four to six months after delivery, and it can also be injured by pressure during sexual intercourse, causing pain. In this case, to facilitate the condition, it is recommended to use special ointments and gels to soften the keloid scars ("Solcoseryl", "Kontratubeks", etc.). A great role is also played by sex poses. Since the nature of ruptures or dissection of the perineum is different for each woman, in each specific case it is recommended that couples find their "own" painless. A pose for sex. Usually, the most painful pose is one that is accompanied by deep penetration ("rider").

In some cases, pain during sexual intercourse is a consequence of serious violations of the anatomy of the vagina on the background of surgical intervention during childbirth. In rare cases, surgeons perform reconstructive surgery to normalize sexual relations.

In the postpartum period, all women in the body have a lack of estrogen, which triggers the emergence of postpartum depression and smaller problems, one of which is the dryness of the vagina and the lack of natural lubrication. This phenomenon is natural for the body and can last up to the normalization of the menstrual cycle. The only way out in this situation is the use of gels-lubricants on a water basis and necessarily from a well-known and high-quality manufacturer. When buying, pay special attention to the composition of such funds. Do not use drugs that contain hormones, if the young mother is breastfeeding.

During the first after the birth of coition, bloody discharge can be observed in a woman. They can testify that the woman hurried with having sex, because the wound (where the placenta was attached) has not yet healed. However, this can be talked about only up to eight weeks after childbirth. If a similar phenomenon occurs later than the specified time, then there is a more serious disease.

It is also worth noting that after the birth the anatomy of the female genitalia changes significantly, as a result of which the ratio of male and female sexual organs changes. This is due to the fact that during the birth the female vagina undergoes a natural strong expansion, necessary for the movement of the child along the birth canal. After the birth of the baby, the vagina is in a relaxed and sluggish state, however, this is not permanent. Everything is restored within a month and a half or two months. Of course, for some time the vagina will not be resilient, as a result of which it will be much more difficult for an woman to reach orgasm, but this will all go away quickly (Kegel exercises can be done to speed up the process). But the young mother during this period seems that in this state she can not satisfy the man, she is sure beforehand that she will not be able to feel his penis inside. Such a psychological attitude can contribute to the fact that a woman will not want sex for a period of time.

By the way, it's a proven fact that women who attended classes during pregnancy do not have similar problems with changing the parameters of the vagina, as trained muscles quickly return to normal.

Sex after cesarean section.
In this regard, women who gave birth by Caesarean section are much easier, because their genitals were not subjected to birth changes. But here too there are problems: on the uterus there is a seam, which slows the recovery of the female body, and, therefore, significantly pushes back the sex life, which can resume later than in women who gave birth naturally.

In conclusion, I note that many women after sex in terms of sex do not experience almost no problems, arguing that their attraction to her husband only intensified, and the sex itself was filled with more vivid colors.