What to do if the husband changes, the causes and signs of betrayal

The betrayal of a loved one is very painful and painful. The very fact of the beloved's "side-by-side" campaign is revealed basically completely by accident. How to behave in a situation where the husband changes? Is it possible to solve the problem while preserving one's own dignity and not losing a family?



The frequent reasons for betrayal of wives.
Yes, unfortunately, more than eighty percent of men changed their second half at least once in their life, and even those about which one can say "clever, beautiful, athlete, Komsomol ...". Often the reasons for the husband's entertainment on the side may completely and not depend on the woman herself. We shall name the most widespread:

• Routine, monotonous life, lack of vivid impressions, including in the intimate sphere.
• Treason, as an opportunity for self-affirmation. When there is no progress in a person's career, on all sides he hears reproaches in his address, including from his wife, then the man begins to seek the opportunity to assert himself in another field, including in the arms of another woman, for whom he is the most beautiful, strong and courageous among all men.
• Treason can be a simple coincidence. An ordinary business trip, a glass of wine in a bar, a meeting with a lonely and very bright woman, a betrayal that is unlikely to be revealed. In addition, after the departure they are unlikely to ever meet again.
• Treason is often committed in revenge. Wife changed with her best friend, respectively, her husband gets a novel on the side. It also happens that a woman, wanting to cause a man a little jealousy, kinks the stick, as a result, feeling betrayed and betrayed, is on treason.
• It also happens that the high social status of a man "allows" him openly to have a mistress. In such families, the wife usually has no complaints about her husband. Divorce does not occur against this background.
• Cooling in a relationship, lack of passion in the family provokes a husband to commit adultery, he seeks affection, understanding from another woman, realizing not wasted sexual ability.
• Often friends of the husband who have mistresses, can negatively affect the man. All you can, and why can not I?

There is a category of men who seem to like and love his wife, like and good everything, but at any opportunity, when the woman herself is the initiator of intimate contact, the seducer, the man will not refuse. In the future, such a woman in order to keep this man , will in every possible way blackmail him.

In general, according to psychologists, there are no such men who would not agree to go to treason at a convenient opportunity. Do not change those that are not of interest to women, or those who are not interested in them. Of course, while there is a state of love in the marriage, the man looks at his companion with adoration. However, as you know, falling in love is a fleeting business, and then the husbands start looking at the side. If this is not possible, some men are limited, but some, given a favorable confluence of these very circumstances, go beyond the usual scrutiny.

Interestingly, all men consider their betrayal as an easy, meaningless affair, a pleasantly exciting blood novel, their conscience does not torment them, they do not blame themselves for anything, on the contrary, they feel themselves to be real men, in full confidence, that they love the wife and children, and that for the sake of this novel on the side they are not going to destroy the family, that after they play enough they can leave the mistress and return to a simple family life. However, as it happens, the wife learns about everything, and then problems begin.

Signs that the husband is cheating.
Usually, loving people know everything about each other, literally to the smallest detail: preferences, habits, manner of behavior, etc. It is the changes in the habits and behavior of the spouse that a woman is worried about, makes him suspect of treason. In the event that your husband's mood improves dramatically, especially when he goes to work, if he suddenly went into another room while talking on the phone, began to select his clothes with special thoroughness and pedantry, changed his wardrobe and perfume, began attending the gym, give gifts often or, conversely, break on you over trifles, you can talk about the possible presence of another woman. But in this situation, you should not panic, because until the fact of treason is not confirmed.

By the way, in this case, to confirm the betrayal of her husband, you do not need to put in his phone a tracking program that is popular now on the Internet, as well as not need to seek help from sorcerers and magicians of doubtful origin, it may turn out to be negative for you.

What should I do if my husband cheats?
Learning about the infidelity of her husband, each woman immediately ceases to adequately think, she just does not know what to do and how to behave. But in this period, the correct behavior of a woman is a priority. Of course, it is difficult and especially difficult for pregnant women. Women usually begin to arrange "scandalous" husband scandals, accompanying screams, hysterics, smashing utensils, interrogations, begin to study his personal things, a magazine in the phone, etc. By such behavior they provoke resentment towards themselves and cause disgust and pity on the part of the man. But in another way the beautiful sex simply can not.

To soberly assess the situation, understand the reasons for the betrayal of her husband and, if there is still love, to return him, saving the family, it is important not to succumb to panic and not turn into a whiny hysterical. Do not start your actions by checking your phone, email and generally becoming a snoop. And most importantly, do not put your husband before the choice, the choice will not be in favor of the family. In addition, you will only strengthen his desire to leave the family.

In general, in situations with betrayal of a spouse, there are three options for solving the problem:

• Forgive and save the family, which can take place if this is the wish of both spouses, or when the woman is sure that she will be able to destroy the fleeting relationship of the spouse and return him to the family.
• Actually pretend that nothing happened. The mistress will never get tired of her husband again, and he will again be the same. Such women, of course, a little. We need a huge willpower, a strong character and strong nerves, so as not to notice the presence of another woman.
• Divorce. If the relationship has irretrievably deteriorated, if the spouse does not want to leave the mistress, then the only solution is a divorce. Why poison the life of each other, and at the same time and children, if they exist.

If you belong to the category of women who want to keep a family, then it is necessary to develop a sequence of actions and adhere to them. It is important to understand why the husband went to treason, did not you become the cause of this. Is his passion for serious relationships, for which he is ready to leave the family, or is it an easy affair that will soon pass, and he is not going to destroy the family? What are your chances to change everything for the better, so that the husband left the razluchnitsu, and became the same. Analyze your relationship with him over the past few years, identify what was wrong. And then, maybe you yourself have not felt any feelings for your husband for a long time, should you then be killed and held? After the divorce, you can still start a new happy life. In some cases, you can spend some time separately, you may like it, and you do not want to return, or the husband will understand that he does not want to lose you.

Remember, if you want to keep a family, never look for meetings with her husband's mistress , she will still know it from her own husband. It will not be in your favor. Better try to get a good look at it (where it works, how it lives, what it looks like, what interests, dignity, what the husband likes, etc.), keep in touch with the events.

Never take revenge on your husband, repaying the same coin, that is, do not answer betrayal of adultery. These you just let him know that it means nothing to you, that you would not mind walking outside.

If you have children in common (the child), do not arrange disassembly with them and try to find out the relationships in every possible way, all the more, you do not need to tune them against the pope. You have not developed it with him, you have problems, for children he is a good and caring dad. Let it remain so, otherwise you risk psychologically traumatizing the child.

If you are determined to keep a family, do not try to drive your husband out of the house when you learn about treason. His new passion will tell you many thanks, because that's what she's waiting for.

If the spouse is a wealthy person, and his mistress is a young, cute student, you should calmly and convincingly explain to him what "really" likes in him his lover. But if the husband's marriage is about your age, and he is not a millionaire at all, then in that case you need to look for reasons in yourself. Often husbands look for side satisfaction in the sexual plan, which, unfortunately, his wife does not deliver. In this situation, or you need to change, or close your eyes to his "pranks." There can be no other option.

In addition, the mistress (the same age) will necessarily make the wrong move, which will put an end to their relationship with your husband - she will require to marry her. It's one thing to have an affair on the side, and another is a re-marriage. Not every man will go for it. In any case, statistics show that only one in a hundred people is able to radically change their lives in this case. And if at that moment you behave like an adequate and sober-minded woman, then he will not want to talk about any changes. It all suits you. Usually on this the passion and passion of the mistress is reduced, and in the future and completely evaporate.

Of course, the cases are different, and it is simply impossible to describe the tactics of action in each of them, all individually. The most important thing to remember, you have to start solving the problem at the time of its receipt, do not bring it to extremes. Be wise, stay strong if you are trying to maintain a relationship and family.